No one told me how hard it was gonna be on my Family (specifically my husband) while I was getting sober. Trying to get sober and do the right things for my recovery is really impacting my Husband.
First let me start by saying he loves me and wants more than anything for me to be sober. He supported me thru detox, he supported me thru PHP (30 days), and he supports me going to AA where we live… so where does he have the problem you ask. After PHP I then attended IOP in Lexington. It was 3 hours a day, 4 days a week for 5 weeks. This mtg is one of great importance for me because it is led by a great Therapist and it is a small group of people in which 2 of the people I went to JP in Bowling Green are also attending . Throughout the whole 5 weeks he would constantly ask me if I was going to a mtg today? He would ask me’Isn’t this your last mtg?? Etc… now we are beginning the aftercare portion of the program and he cannot understand why I need the aftercare. I have tried talking to him about my feelings and needs and tonight shared a podcast about addiction with him. Has it helped? I don’t think it did. We both had a terrible time sleeping last night and of course I made it about me but this morning he woke up and was upset about property lines???? I don’t understand where to go from here or what to do. The mtgs are important to me and I feel they are helping me in my recovery. How do I get him to understand? How do we move forward?